Women, Stop Telling Men To Be More Vulnerable
Definition; adjective
Susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm.
There is nothing wrong with being vulnerable. It’s a normal human emotion that allows us to build new relationships in an authentic way. Even better, it strengthens existing relationships like nothing else.
But lately, there is a growing narrative. The narrative is simple: Men, you need to be more vulnerable.
Now, at first, this doesn’t seem bad. It’s almost poetic.
But here’s why it’s bullshit.
Men Are Inherently Vulnerable
A man’s whole life is vulnerability.
Think about it for a minute.
When disaster strikes who gets saved first? Women and children
Who gets drafted in war? Men
Who is more likely to get in a fight, go to prison, murdered, addicted to drugs, experience homelessness, or kill themselves? Men
Who is more likely to get custody of children? Women
When a man is down on his luck either by his own choices or sheer happenchance, nobody cares. No one will go out of their way to help a weak man. You can’t help but think he’s pathetic.
A Hard Truth
Women and children are valued for existing, as they should be.
But men don’t have that luxury. We aren’t valued for simply existing. We are valued for what we can provide, accomplish, or protect.
None of this is good or bad, it’s just evolution.
Vulnerability Junkies
As I said in the beginning, being vulnerable is good. Nobody wants to be with a person who can’t express their emotions. Might as well go have sex with a robot if that’s the case.
This umbrella advice of always being vulnerable every chance a man can get is trash.
But this is the mainstream narrative. It’s becoming clear that the advice is not for the person receiving it, it’s for the person giving it.
They are like crackheads for emotions. Emotion dealers, because that’s what we need in 2020, more emotions!
Ok Advice, Wrong Guy
I’ll say it again. Being vulnerable = good.
But most of the time the advice is being given to the wrong guy. Watch this…
You have a physically fit, well-dressed man. He has a strong work ethic, loving family, creative, and loves adventure. Could you tell this man to be more vulnerable? Yes. Why? Because he has life figured out. He can afford to be vulnerable now.
Now, you have a 24-year-old high school dropout. He plays video games, watches copious amounts of porn, no real relationships. Works a barely above minimum wage job and blames most of his problems on anything outside his control.
Should you tell this boy to be more vulnerable. FUCK NO. His whole life is open to attack! He lives a life no one will ever love him for. Telling him to be even more vulnerable is a death sentence.